Five Signs You Need New Friends

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We’ve all been there – hanging out with the same group of people since who knows when. We’ve come to accept them for everything they are, faults and all. We’ve already forgiven them for the pain they will cause us in the future because we’re best buds. But, you know what? Being made to feel…

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Understanding Cognitive Distortions and Living in the Grey  

Cognitive Distortions and living in the grey

Looking at the world through a black and white lens is common in people dealing with anxiety, depression, OCD, borderline personality disorder and other mental health conditions. This rigid way of processing actions and beliefs of your own, and others around you,can ease distressing symptoms caused by cognitive upset. In her informative video lecture, A.M. shares…

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How To Set Appropriate Boundaries For Your Parents

How To Set Appropriate Boundaries For Your Parents

The transition into adulthood requires a switch from dependence on your parents’ rules and guidance to self-management. As much as you are struggling with this change, your parents are likely experiencing similar difficulty adjusting to this transformation. In order to become a fully independent adult, you must set appropriate boundaries for yourself and your space,…

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 Switching from External to Internal Validation  

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External validation depends on a positive feedback loop from outsiders in response to your actions or expressions. If, at any point, your expressions, actions, and/or outside responses change course, your feelings of self-worth may plummet. Relying on outside forces for validation can put even the most well-adjusted individuals on a crash course towards self-sabotage. If…

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Threenager

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About a year ago, I wrote about my experiences using DBT with my toddler while he was in the “Terrible Twos” phase. I am happy to report that we have made it to three, mostly unscathed. I had heard rumblings about the “Threenager” year and wasn’t sure what to expect however blogs, articles, and friends…

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Mindfullness Part 2

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The second set of mindfulness skills are the “How” Skills, which teach specifically how to practice your mindfulness skills. The “How” skills are Nonjudgmentally, One-Mindfully, and Effectively. Unlike the “What” skills, these can all be done at the same time. Nonjudgmentally: The idea is to let go of judgment when evaluating people, their behavior, and…

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Mindfulness part 1

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Do you ever drive home from work and not remember how you got there? How about misplacing your keys when you were just holding them? Or taking a shower and not remembering if you already put shampoo? Do you ever feel like you are living on auto-pilot and just going through the motions? I know…

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Exploring the Dangers of Perfectionist Thinking

Despite external factors, including financial difficulties and social pressure, internal conflicts are often the biggest contributors to the development of Failure to Launch syndrome. Perfectionist thinking is one of the main internal factors that can have a negative impact on your ability to excel in adulthood. A.M. struggled with perfectionist ideals for herself while growing…

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No One Understands Me: Feeling Validation in a Torn Family  

Feeling Validation in a Torn Family

Coming to terms with a mental health diagnosis when you’re a young adult can be distressing to say the least. You may find yourself isolating from your family because they don’t seem to understand. Or, you may see a friend being consoled and supported by his parents and think to yourself “I hate my mom.”…

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DBT What Skills (A Refresher Video)

It’s always good to brush up on your DBT skills from time to time. Our very own Jenny Martin put together a great little video that helps us all remember some core DBT principles to use in our everyday lives.

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Mindfullness Refresher Video

With the holidays approaching us, OPI thought this would be a great time to review the basics of DBT with some short videos. We started with the mindfulness module and the first video is about the states of mind. Stay tuned for more!

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DBT Temporary Tattoos – An Artistically Skillful Choice

Here at Optimum Performance Institute, and in our OPI Intensive for young adults with Borderline Personality Disorder and BPD traits, we are constantly seeking new resources and materials to keep our participants engaged in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) both in and out of the office. We recently received several copies of The Dialectical Behavior Therapy…

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