{"id":2550,"date":"2015-03-12T08:17:45","date_gmt":"2015-03-12T15:17:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.optimumperformanceinstitute.com\/?p=2550"},"modified":"2024-02-28T15:13:34","modified_gmt":"2024-02-28T21:13:34","slug":"guidelines-for-relationship-effectiveness-keeping-a-relationship-using-dbt-give-skills","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.optimumperformanceinstitute.com\/dbt-treatment\/guidelines-for-relationship-effectiveness-keeping-a-relationship-using-dbt-give-skills\/","title":{"rendered":"Guidelines for Relationship Effectiveness: Keeping a Relationship Using DBT GIVE Skills"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"DBT<\/a>My college roommate worked for the on-campus police substation, and as you can imagine they worked with a variety of students, professionals, and even the local community. More often than not, they were visiting the substation to complain about tickets, requesting a vehicle release, or reporting crimes. Watching her handle the never-ending line of disgruntled and even verbally abusive civilians was eye-opening for me, because she always had a smile on her face while serving them and maintained her cheery disposition. I recall asking her how she did it, and she replied with the old adage that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.<\/p>\n

It is not always easy for many people to communicate in this manner, especially when becoming emotionally dysregulated, so fortunately we have the DBT GIVE skill set to remind us to focus on being effective in our interactions, regardless of the situation. GIVE provides guidelines for maintaining or improving relationships while trying to get what you want from the interaction.<\/p>\n

You can always check in with yourself to see if you are being effective by asking yourself a few questions:<\/p>\n