Independent Living Skills

March 31, 2018

While the independent living skills required to make it through everyday life are second nature to many, no one is merely born with all of them. For most of us, we pick up on these skills as we grow up. During our formative childhood years, we model ourselves after parents and caregivers. For some, inconsistencies delivered by their parents end

Techniques to Overcome Failure to Launch Syndrome  

June 16, 2016

Speaking with candor and eloquence, A.M. describes how she overcame Failure to Launch Syndrome by finding a passion in life (in A.M.’s case, it is music), engaging in cognitive behavioral therapy, and working with a life coach who helped her improve essential life skills. Initially confused by her attraction to women, A.M. eventually learned to accept herself completely as a human

How the Golden Child Role Influences Failure to Launch  

June 7, 2016

Perceptions of your role as the Golden Child in the family can have a negative effect on your ability to cope with the demands of adulthood. In A.M.’s informative video lecture, she explains how her family makeup influenced the adoption of that demanding role. She internalized the “Golden Child” role and instantly began trying to compensate for the perceived flaws

Learned Hopelessness vs Learned Helplessness in Young Adults

May 26, 2016

The truth is, I don’t even know if learned hopelessness is a thing.  I tried to “Google” it, but I keep being pushed towards learned helplessness. I think the two concepts are different, and I use them in my sessions as if they are.  While working with my Participants, I often see signs of learned helplessness.  Learned helplessness can be

Eating Disorders and Overcoming Failure to Launch Syndrome

July 24, 2015

Are you concerned that your young adult child may be suffering from an eating disorder? Although the majority of individuals battling eating disorders are female, between 5 and 15% are male, according to the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders. If your daughter or son appears to have disordered eating patterns or body image issues, they could be

Failure to Launch Syndrome – Radio Show Replay

May 20, 2015

Listen in as Robert Fischer, M.D., psychiatrist and Executive Director here at OPI, speaks about Failure to Launch Syndrome on the Dr. Kim Taylor Show.   For more information on OPI’s residential and intensive outpatient (IOP Day Treatment) programs and our measures to help young adults overcome anxiety related Failure to Launch issues, call us at (888)-814-5985 or click HERE

Laziness vs. a Failure to Launch into Adulthood

May 6, 2015

In response to a recent NPR perspectives “I didn’t Get the Child I Ordered.” You didn’t get into Stanford. Your parents think you didn’t work hard enough, and you think they see you as lazy. Grandma and Grandpa see you as lazy because your cousins had no problems getting into their first choice, top tier college. Your aunts and uncles

Overcoming Failure to Launch Using Family Therapy: Creating a Space for Dialog (PT 3)

March 4, 2015

This post is part three in series.  Need to read parts one and two first? Part I: Active Communication Part 2: Creating Space for Active Listening Moving On Sometimes family sessions come to an impasse and it becomes more effective to move on, rather than continuing to escalate a disagreement. It is important to acknowledge that these stalemates exist and

Overcoming Failure to Launch Using Family Therapy: Creating a Space for Dialog (PT 2)

February 23, 2015

PART II Creating Space for Active Listening (Haven’t read Part I yet? Click HERE to read it now, then come back to continue on.) Being able to actively listening means being able to create and hold a space where the individual feels safe and understood. Conversation takes time. To actively hear what someone is saying is allowing them to finish

Overcoming Failure to Launch Using Family Therapy: Creating a Space for Dialog (PT 1)

February 11, 2015

On Parenting If your children are objects To fulfill your needs, Chances are they will give up their dance To dance with you, And they may spend much of their lives Just trying to figure out who they are. By Bill E. Goldberg     In my work with couples and with families where young adults are experiencing failure to

Overcoming Overwhelm: Find the Right College for You

December 12, 2014

Whether you are a first-time freshman, transfer student, or a potential graduate school student, you will be faced with the question of how to find the RIGHT college for you. With the large number of schools throughout the United States, our diverse staff of education professionals, therapists, life coaches, and independent living specialists at Optimum Performance Institute (OPI) works with